Returning To The Ex – Good Or Bad?

Sometimes a relationship breaks down due to disagreements, pressures, or sheer incompatibilities. In some cases, divorced partners return together, sometimes out of sheer desire for comfort. Is a good idea to come back together with your ex-husband?

This largely depends on your personal life situation and why you separated in the beginning. Is it worth reviving a relationship if all the things you ended up getting are still in the air? Going back together for loneliness or a desire for comfort is always a bad idea.

What things will get you back together with your ex-husband?

Sometimes the difference can be due to childish disagreements and differences between partners that they could not find a solution to when they were together. In such a case, coming together may not be impossible if both parties are able to accept the partner’s shortcomings and traits and value them exactly as they are. This provides an opportunity to explore the relationship from a new perspective.

Sometimes the situation is much more complicated, especially if there are lies and betrayals of trust in the picture. In that case, it’s important that forgiveness and love come first: if you want to give your partner a second chance, you need to let go of the beauties, otherwise reunion can be a sheer disaster.

Sometimes you want to give a relationship a second chance because of the children. The idea may seem worth it, but you don’t really want to go back to your partner and do it just for the sake of the kids. It is important that the decision to start a new business comes from you, not just a sense of responsibility.

Many couples end up back together because they are afraid of losing something big when they part. They don’t want to think “what if” for decades, but really want to try to see if the relationship works.

If you want to get back together with your ex-husband, it is important to know what you expect from the relationship and whether you are willing to sacrifice in front of the relationship, and most importantly, whether your partner is willing to make the same sacrifices. If you are both aware of what it takes to maintain a relationship and how you can change yourself to make the relationship work, you can try again.

The downsides of convergence

1. Things have changed permanently

Perhaps the relationship ended in infidelity, leaving trust completely shattered. Things can never go back to normal. You can try your best, but this deep wound is and will remain.

If you come back together after such an experience, you may just end up fighting and disappointing again and again. Your desires are not being fulfilled and the relationship cannot be restored, so it is important for you to think about whether you really want to expose yourself to all that pain. Would it be easier to just move on and find a new partner you can trust?

2. Collapse can prevent you from growing

When you get back together with your ex-husband, you take a step back. You’ve tried everything and the relationship has no future, but you keep trying anyway.

At the same time, you miss not only opportunities to meet new people. You close the door of opportunity and tie yourself to a relationship that belongs to the past. Maybe you’re afraid of change and the unknown, or maybe you’re afraid you’re not worthy of anyone else. You cannot build a working relationship on the basis of such fears, and at the same time you stay apart from true, nourishing love.

3. Pain caused by confluence

Relationships end because of conflicts and difficulties that can be difficult to face. If you have to forgive things that hurt you too much and try to save the relationship when you should let go of it can lead to resentment and anger, as well as a deep accident.

4. Don’t become dependent on another

Sometimes we end up back with a cousin of poor self-confidence and addiction. You believe in yourself that no one else cares about you or is able to love you. You don’t trust your own charm or ability to sustain another person’s interest. You feel unfulfilled without a relationship and if you can’t find a new partner after the divorce, you’re sticking to your mistake.

Coming with an exa is a big decision that needs to be weighed carefully. It’s not going to be easy, and the reasons you broke up are important.

As long as you don’t carry resentment, don’t need revenge, or return to loneliness, you can try again. Ken knows, coming together can be the best decision you make, because sometimes the difference clarifies how important and wonderful a partner we have and how much you value them.

As long as you do it for the right reasons, coming together can be a workable solution.