Love Can’t Be Found By Searching

You’ve probably already heard that love cannot be found by searching. But time goes by, and Pop Culture as well as the people around you are repeating to you “What? Still haven’t found a partner ?! ”. You are anxious because that special person has still not entered your life.

It is important to realize that the people around you only behave according to the same beliefs that you yourself have had. They believe (often erroneously) that in order to be completely happy a person must have a partner and start a family, or that being single is unusual. On the other hand, they can simply just believe that without a partner a person has failed.

The need to find a partner can become an obsession. But love cannot be found by searching.

Love is not found on the internet

Love is not found by searching the web on sites like Badoo or mobile apps like Tinder. Everyone knows what is really being sought from these places, and that is anything but true love.

While some have managed to find love online, you need to think about how it happened. There are many reasons why someone might want to interact with people over the Internet:

• He may have low self-esteem and he may believe that no one wants him in real life.

• She’s shy and timid, and social media gives her a little courage to dare to talk to people in a more relaxed and natural way.
• She never goes out with friends and doesn’t live an active life because of work or other responsibilities, and she believes the only way to meet people is online.
• He wants so desperately to find someone as quickly as possible that he turns to the internet to speed things up.

As you can see, in none of these situations does a person look for love on the internet. In reality, he needs a boost in self-esteem, someone to like him, to care about him, to feel important, and so on.

Does this have anything to do with love?

Love appears when you least expect it

You see this all the time: the more desperate we are, the more likely a potential partner is to take their feet down.

Do you remember ever being in a relationship and suddenly becoming really interesting in the eyes of other people? This is because when you are in a relationship you are relaxed and calm, and this attracts people. This does not happen when you are desperate.

For this reason, it is important to believe that finding love unexpectedly is possible. From the gym, checkout, work, etc.

Everything is possible. The world is full of endless possibilities that we cannot even expect. Love is not found through anxiety and despair. That way, you only end up with the first person you meet.

Don’t be afraid to be alone

You will not find love if you are afraid to be alone. Fear of loneliness is ingrained in people’s minds, fueled by society and our era.

There is nothing to worry about if you are alone. No worries if you haven’t found a partner yet. If it causes anxiety, it’s just because you think you need a partner to be happy.

But do you know what really makes you happy?

Being happy with yourself and what you are takes care of yourself and makes yourself the most important thing to yourself.

If you can’t be alone or are afraid of being alone, remember that love cannot be found in another person. It’s inside you.

Only when you love yourself can you truly love someone else. Only when you are happy with yourself can you love someone without being dependent on them.

Free yourself from those negative beliefs, for love is not found by searching. This only causes frustration and malaise.

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